The Third Stage

Why improving your emotional intelligence is a good thing

Gareth Harris of Positive Doing has been involved in personal development for over 10 years. He is a Master Practitioner of NLP and a New Code NLP Practitioner and is accredited to deliver Emotional Intelligence through JCAs ie online report. Here he discusses improving your emotional intelligence:

We all need to communicate with other people and the quality of this communication can make a huge difference to the results we get. 

When you improve your emotional intelligence (Ei) you get to develop the key areas needed to make the most of any communications you have in the future.

The great news about you Ei is that it can be developed.  

Ei looks at two very specific areas:

Intrapersonal Intelligence = being intelligent enough to pick up what is going on inside of you (Self awareness) and doing what we need to do about it (Self management).

Interpersonal Intelligence = being intelligent enough to pick up what is going on in other people and between people (Other awareness) and doing what we need to do about that (Relationship management).

At a deeper level Ei is influenced by our attitudes, in particular our attitude towards ourselves (Self regard) and our attitude towards other people (Regard for others).

 

The relationship between the two areas are shown above. The core attitudes of Self regard and Regard for others is considered the bedrock of your Ei and is very often one of the first areas to be developed.

Self Regard - Far too many people are wondering around with a way too low regard for themselves. Which, if linked to a too high regard for others means the communications are very lop sided and tend to be of the “you’re OK I’m not OK” type of conversation. Improving your self regard is a corner stone to better Ei.

Awareness of self and of others  - The degree to which you are in touch with you body,your feelings and your intuitions and the degree to which you are in touch with the feeling states of others. Both of these skills when developed will make a huge difference to the way you communicate with others.

These are just a couple of 16 different emotional intelligence areas that can be developed. 

So, by improving your emotional intelligence your communications with yourself and others will improve. And this has to be a good thing.

Gareth Harris

gareth@positivedoing.com

Twitter.com/positivedoing

 

 

New Blog Series - The Growth Circle

As we move smoothly in to 2011, we are starting a new series on our blog dedicated to the fine folks involved with our business support initiative The Growth Circle.

The Growth Circle is a collaboration of experts (we define expert not a some smart alec who thinks they know everything, but rather as someone who makes a living in the subject area they have chosen) who we call the Business Ninjas. These Ninjas have voices that should be heard.

As we help businesses grow, they too have voices and great knowledge. The Growth Circle blog series will introduce expert topics from both groups.

So essentially dear readers you will soon be able to access a steady stream of Guest Blog Articles from our partners and clients to help you. Please comment freely - your feedback is appreciated and useful to us.

Coming shortly and first up will be the subject of Emotional Intelligence.

In the meantime, you may care to find out more about The Growth Circle's upcoming Bristol Media Summit on February 3rd 2011:

The Growth Circle

We thought you would like to know about our new venture called The Growth Circle.

As a business owner we are sure you share our frustration with the level of support available to growing businesses. There is a lot of it around, but we have found that much of it is either organisations that signpost but do little to really help, or training by 'trained trainers' who spout textbook speak or cannot support the training with appropriate experience.

In response to this we have started our own support initiative, terming it 'training by doers not talkers' - it is characterised by:

• Practical training from experienced professionals, who do what they train on for a living
• Who bring maturity and sense to what they do
• Who are fun, engaging and real

We think of it as building your kitbag of practical skills - the things that can make a massive difference to your business quickly.

Our business ninjas cover most of the key marketing areas a young business needs to address:

• How to network
• What their brand is and what it means
• How to work with copywriters and SEO
• Social Media
• Collaboration
• Building testimonial and referral systems
• How to talk to customers and potential customers
• Which technology is really relevant to them
• How to build a sales pipeline.

We do this through Media summits and 12 month learning programmes and will be rolling this out throughout the UK soon. The next summits are:

Swansea 4th November

Tredegar 12th November

We'll be sharing much more about The Growth Circle over the next few months so keep checking back.